Why you're a sad and lonely cat lady?

Marguerite Gérard (1761-1837) - ‘THE GREAT CAT’

I used to be a prime supporter of Feminism. In high school I was part of Mentors in Violence Prevention, a left-wing, feminist youth group which ran workshops and tutorials to young people, essentially explaining to them how violent and dangerous “real” men are and how there aren’t any distinctions between the sexes. After all, we are enlightened liberals believing that men and women are equal.

So yes, I used to be a supporter of Feminism. It was right around the time that I entered university and also the working world that I quickly realised what they had taught us was a complete lie. Men and women are indeed very different in abilities and strengths. By punching down on masculine traits we find in boys, what you’re left with are a bunch of sissy cowards who are afraid to approach women.

That being said, Feminism is the reason why you are alone. Back in the early 20th century, self-righteous elite women decided that it was undignified to raise children and run a home, and that they should undergo the same stresses and tribulations men go through everyday. We then discovered that women aren’t as physically capable to work in the mines, shovel the dirt on the ground or risk their lives (and their health) in the same way men still do everyday in long-hour jobs. But women still need to work?

In her “ground-breaking” 1949 work "The Second Sex" (Le Deuxième Sexe), the radical French feminist Beauvoir argued that economic independence was crucial for women’s liberation. She didn't just support the idea that women could work—she strongly believed that women must work in order to escape the societal roles that confined them to domestic life and dependence on men.

A key idea of hers was that women should not be content with the mere "choice" to work (which could be a trap if economic necessity wasn't there), but should actively participate in the workforce as a step toward equality. To her, relying on a man for financial security was one of the primary ways women were kept “subordinate”.

Nicolai Yarushenko, (1846-1898) "Dama con un gato".

Unlike Beauvoir, an American feminist named Betty Friedan focused on the idea that women should have the freedom to choose their paths in life—whether that meant pursuing a career, staying home, or balancing both.

Needless to say, both of these women campaigned on the assumption that taking care of children and running a home was undignified and beneath them. Both of these women also hated children, hated their husbands, had destructive relationships which did not last more than their patience and insanity afforded them.

And that is why you are just as miserable and alone as these women were. You are half-heartedly pursuing relationships expecting a full heart in return, you are wanting all the benefits and cares of being a women without any of the responsibilities that that comes with it and you aren’t ready to humble yourself to pursuing the meaning —and God —that will ultimately shape your life. Young women today are being told that they must work—they have to— as well as loosely flirting with the idea of choice and freedom while keeping up the desperate appearances of the phrase “I don’t need a man”.

A part of me feels that it isn’t so much women are needing men less, but rather the indulgences women are being offered through luxury goods, brands and retail can’t be supplied by a man. In other words, men are inadequate for the Feminist World.

The Feminist vision was about supposedly setting things straight, to —shall we say—liberate the woman from the supposed grips and chains of the man. But in reality, it was never about equality or justice, it was simply to vent and echo a deep hatred for men.

After finally being liberated, where did they go next? Did they live happily and freely? Did they live enlightened and prosperous lives? Did they become responsible and powerful leaders? Or did they simply become the slaves of a much worse master?

The Feminist vision of the world has led women ,who would otherwise be in loving and fruitful relationships, to being slaves for a corporate machine designed to extract every bite out of them, become trapped in the seasonal cycles of consumerism and marketing, all while being shallowly uplifted and glorified for their feminine beauty and self-righteous attitude.

In summary, the feminist experiment has failed—or succeeded, depending on who you talk to. Feminism sent women to work long hours in tiny cubicles for low pay for corporations which don’t give a dam about them. Feminism convinced women not to care about their husbands or even their own children. Feminism convinced women to value success, money and material possession over family and children. (Furthermore, Feminism sought out to abort children because it was thought that poor people shouldn’t have babies)

Feminism, in its purest form, says that women should be men and men should be women. The logical conclusion to Feminism is that women can be men and men can be women.

The Logic of Feminism

Pride is a movement that fuels hedonism, narcissism, perversion and child abuse.

Why shouldn’t women do the same things men do?

Women shouldn’t do the same things men do because women have children and children are vulnerable. Men do things which expose them to danger, and if women do the same things that men do, you begin to expose children to danger and neglect.

Well, aha! We now have the ability to kill our children and thus women are no longer vulnerable.

Women who sacrifice their own children for luxury, lifestyle or economic reasons are demonic and insane.

Well, aha! We now have the Birth Control Pill, I guess now we won’t need to have anymore babies.

The Birth Control Pill has led to sexual promiscuity, allowed men and women to gain maximal pleasure/reward with zero responsibility/sacrifice.

Well, aha! We now can have sex with whoever we want, wherever we want, whenever we want (with whatever we want).

The sexual revolution led to more heartbreak, pain and sorrow between the sexes, and led to the AIDS epidemic as well as the LGBTQ+ degeneracy, and ultimately Transgenderism, which questions the differences between the sexes, as it was in the beginning.

So, if Feminism has succeeded, where do we go next? The Enlightenment purported to look to the future, to imagine things that are not, and to see things as they are but protest how they should be. I have always found wisdom when looking at the past, at history, because that is all we really have.

Girl with a Cat, 1882 - Ivan Kramskoy

In Milton’s Paradise Lost, Eve awakes to find herself in the Garden of Eden. She rolls over and sees her own reflection and falls in love with her own beauty. God then commands her to look up, to which she sees Adam. Subsequently, she is disappointed to see him because he is not as beautiful as she is (or as she sees herself). However, despite this, Adam pushes through the hurt he feels and grasps her hand. Eve, excelled by manly grace, finds that there is much more wisdom, richness and fulfilment in loving Adam rather than loving herself.

Part of my soul I seek thee, and thee claim
My other half!' With that thy gentle hand
Seized mine: I yielded, and from that time see
How beauty is excelled by manly grace
And wisdom, which alone is truly fair."

John Milton’s Paradise Lost, Book IV

I wish I read someone like Milton when I was rampaging with MVP. I wish I had the wisdom and understand he offered with just these short lines. Since very few people that read Milton can actually understand him, his message and his dream is routinely cast aside and misunderstood.

Although Paradise Lost was written more than 300 years ago, these images are so relevant today in how we structure men and women. Like Adam, many boys today are quickly being cast aside and are being replaced by nothing less than a mere watery reflection of Eve. Eve, obsessed by her own beauty, won’t look up and instead will only keep looking down. Unlike Adam, many boys fail to push through those feelings of rejection and take a hold of that hand with grace. Many young men are not enough for the consumerist/strong/independent women.

But I tell you, as I was told, to give them a chance. You have no idea what kind of wonders and blessings you’ll see if you do. You have no idea the kinds of value and meaning—and love—you will experience if you give each other a chance at it.

In short, in the words of King Louis IX:

“Be kind-hearted to the poor, the unfortunate, and the afflicted. Give thanks to God for all the benefits He has bestowed upon you... and take care that you live so as to deserve it. Above all, my son, love God with all your heart, and help your wife to love Him too, so that you may both go to heaven together.”

Ladies, how many times have you been offered this story as the story of your relationship with a man?

Specifically, the relationship between a man and a woman is one of power. When a man takes a woman as his wife, he takes her wealth and her autonomy, she is taken from her family and her name is replaced by his, she loses all choices of her own and she is forced to a work a subservient life in the home. Sher is further subjected to his leadership (despite how flawed it is), she is raped each night and forced to go through labour which could kill her, she is then subjected to caring for his infant that sucks away at her soul and her dreams.

Ladies, why question to do is: how much do you seriously believe that story?

How much do you believe that story? If so, what did it take for you to earn that wisdom? Did you go through any of this story yourself for you to rightly justify this story? Is this reflective of your life, your mother’s life, your grandmother’s life, and all the women’s lives that came before you?

What if I could offer an alternative story? When a man marries a woman, he marries her in a Holy Matrimony such that the two become one flesh. He takes her as his own and the world is never the same again. They love each other other so much that they can create another human being. This new person, this new child, is so uniquely connected to the mother that the mother is compelled to love, to nurture and to care for the child. She will never love anything more for the rest of her life. The man will labour and work till the end of his days, not for himself, but for his wife and his children.

Men and women do need to each other, and it’s about time we started acting like it.