Book Review II: The Anti-Mary Exposed: Rescuing the Culture From Toxic Femininity

The tactics invoked by anti-Marian women, tantrums and bullying, have done much to simultaneously keep men in check while also creating a deep poison and division between the sexes. Both are marks of the fallen angel who wants to destroy the natural icon of God found in men and women living in harmony with one another. This raises the likelihood that there is something significant for women concerning the complementarity of men: maybe women need men to balance them out, to reign in their inclinations to insatiability, irrationality, and envy. Perhaps the “all conquering female” doesn’t know when to quit, except when she has truly conquered everything, totally demolishing it and grinding it into a powder (to borrow a phrase from Lenin). Perhaps it is this dominant political posturing of women, unhinged from rationality and civility, that has led us once again to the “terrible mother” type of culture? The matriarchy has been incredibly successful in making over women to be the whores, dykes, and bitches they envisioned.

As I was leaving Mass one Sunday in rural Georgia, I was talking to a fellow friend of a recent book I was reading called "The Anti-Mary Exposed". He has trouble understanding the disconnect between what he was told a woman should be and what he had experienced in university. For a long time, perhaps from the age of 16, I had come to accept that all women were essentially socialist lesbians, and there was nothing I or anyone else could do to stop them.

My friend who I was explaining this to was having difficulty in his dating life. He was of the classically conservative (or rather normal) type of wanting a family and children, whereas the women he was speaking to wanting nothing but to drink, party, work like dogs in the day and act like prostitutes at night, all in the guise of 'liberation' and 'freedom'. I told him that he needed to speak to other women. "Have you read 'The Anti-Mary Exposed'?" I said. To that question, a young girl right behind me pulled out a blue hardcover "You mean this?"

It turns out, 'The Anti-Mary Exposed' has become widely popular amongst young Catholic women, and ever since the COVID-19 lockdowns, BLM, mega woke, mass DEI, modern women have forcefully had their lives reoriented. What makes them so unhappy is no surprise to me that this Carrie Gress' book was rediscovered at such a time where modern women are the most dilapidated, depressed, lonely and suicidal than ever before.

I had known women like this my whole life: from MVP in high school to all the lib-tard witches in university. Many of the women were either narcissistically neglectful or monstrously controlling.

Aristotle saw that the way to establish a virtuous act is to find the “golden mean,” that spot in the middle of two extreme vices. If we look at the two kinds of extremes that women are tempted to—over-control, on one side, and negligence, on the other—then we can see that the virtuous woman is the one who balances these two extremes. It’s easy to think of the domineering and manipulative mother, on one hand, or the negligent and narcissistic mother, on the other, who can’t be bothered with her family’s needs. In the middle of these two is the good or great mother who is nurturing, supportive, attentive, and selfless.

Hostility to truth is nurtured by the love of lies

-Fr. George Rutler

After dating dykes, whores, lesbians, communists my whole life, Carrie Gress made me realise that I had forgotten the only woman in the world that truly loves me: my own mother. She fed when I was hungry, she put me to bed when I was tired, she took care of me when I was sick, she looked after me when I was sad. But I don't just have my own mother as a good example of a good woman: I have our Lady Mary. Carrie Gress made me understand that for those who don't have good mothers, there is still one who you can always look up to.

Mary’s surrender is based upon the reality that she knows she is loved, and she has no shame, no fear, no emptiness in her soul, no wounds of rejection or abandonment that compel her to keep something for herself the way that the rest of humanity does.

[Women] fulfill themselves by giving something of their own life so that others may live.

-Edith Stein

When a man loves a woman, it follows that the nobler the woman, the nobler the love; the higher the demands made by the woman, the more worthy a man must be. That is why woman is the measure of the level of our civilization.

-Archbishop Fulton Sheen

sacrifice is usually difficult and irksome. Only love can make it easy, and perfect love can make it a joy.

-Neumann

Every woman is called to be a bridge between her family and heaven. Women are called to spark the flame of the divine in the souls of the men and children they love. Women are called to reveal the best of God’s love and give those around them the means to find that love. Again, Christianity is full of saintly women, such as St. Monica, St. Helen, St. Cecilia, and countless others that led their husbands, sons, and daughters to embrace the faith—even in the face of martyrdom.

We look back and are astonished that women could accomplish so much because women “had no power” in these eras, but only because we are mistaken about the real power that women have—it doesn’t come from them, but through them.

Women have a unique gift to draw men and children to them—and through them to God—through their beauty.

Women’s magazines today offer us a different kind of beauty, a beauty to be used as a superficial means of acquiring other things we want: to allure men, impress our friends, or to be admired. The notion that what is beautiful should point beyond itself to the source of all beauty—the Creator—is far, far away.

most of the things promoted by women in our culture—being outspoken, assertive, independent, and ambitious—weren’t producing the kind of happiness I expected. I started paying attention to music, poetry, and movies, anywhere I could find evidence of what made for truly timeless and great women, not just those propped up by our culture. And what did I find? Remarkable and beautiful portrayals of women using interior capacities I had never thought about before: kindness, compassion, listening, anticipating the needs of others, sincerity, and goodness. Getting married and having children only made me go deeper to find and live these newly discovered virtues. I marveled at the fruits—my friends got closer; my children grew contented; my husband became more loving—all